Sneak Peak of My Life Pt.5

Well, we started loosing sleep at first. The normal new parent deal. Neil got up almost every morning at 5 to open at Hardee's or either we slept late & he worked close. Kylee was 3 months, when we got the phone call. A friend on the other line was apologizing & I didn't understand why. Then she asked me, "You didn't know, did you?". "No, no I don't know anything, what's going on". She told me, & we were not at all prepared for the answer. All I knew was I had to call Neil & tell him. That's the worst thing I've ever had to do. Telling Neil to get off work, his mom was gone. Around the same time, Neils dad got out of jail & was coming around and eventually told Neil that if he wasn't happy, to go stay in Greenville with his Aunt. Well, me not wanting to see my family broken, follows him, but it wasn't long before I saw him walking down the road holding a blonde, teenagers hand. I was n a rage. I wanted to go home and show him what he lost, and i didn't care what happened as long as I could have him again. But, that came to an end when he moved to Georgia with his dad. & finally when Kylee was 10 months old, I met Garrett. My husband now, & other half. I can't say I don't wonder how things would be if Neil would've never went to Georgia or Greenville, if Brenda was still here, & if we could get along in the same room for at least 5 minutes. We grew up together, but we weren't meant to be together forever. At one time, yes, I thought he'd step up but I pushed him away. Pushed him to his breaking point too. I thank god everyday that he sent me Garrett. Someone that can handle me and all my glory. Bad hair day and pajamas. No makeup and all. We completed our family with another baby girl, and he loves them both equally and wouldn't have it any other way. Neil and Kylee can't see each other as much as they'd like but he says that he is going to keep coming around. He came to her 4th birthday party and then again after he got picked up for child support. Kylee calls him whenever she can and they talk and he's supposed to be coming back for her birthday party because on January 12th, our little baby that once fit in our hands, will be 5 years old!

Sneak Peak of My Life Pt.4

         As the months flew by, I was an emotional wreck but at the time, Neil was working at Hardees and taking care of us. We both were working hard to get ready for our baby girl. My due date was rushing up quick and we were over joyed. His mother Brenda and my mother Kim were there through everything and we lived with my dad. One night at about 11, my stomach started knotting up. I thought I had to use the bathroom... that didn't work, so I tried the bath. And let me warn you, what I am telling you is about to be gross. I had already called my nurse on call and told her that I had been bleeding and it was 2 days before my due date. Well, she thought that it was because my doctor checked my cervix that day. Well at 3 AM, when I get out of the tub and go to pull my panties up, blood gushes out all in them. So frantically I go and wake snoring Neil out of sleep and told him that I thought I was in labor and it was hurting so bad. He jumped up and he grabbed all the bags and we jumped in the car, Well on the way to the hospital with me in labor, Neil takes a small detour and gets his mom, Brenda. I was screaming and beating the car, begging for lights to turn green, when we finally got there and the doors to the hospital were locked. By then, I thought I was about to die. Neil ran all over the hospital until he found a cop to get me a wheelchair and they wheeled me to labor and delivery. First they checked my cervix and the woman said, "she's at an 8, she's ready" and all I could ask was, "well your not sending me home are you?", "NO, your in full blown labor honey". Through it all Neil, my mom, and Brenda were there. I got my epidural and at 7:49 AM Kylee Danielle Neibel was born, 6 lbs 4 ou. The most beautiful baby I had ever seen. I couldn't help it, when the doctor threw her up on my chest and we locked eyes, I looked into my moms, and I seen so many emotions running though the both of us and I felt the love from Brenda to Neil. Her baby boy had just had a baby girl. My mom and I both just burst into tears. I could feel the love from everywhere. For the next few days we had people in and out wanting to see our little baby. We got cleared to go home but when we got out of the hospital, everything started to change..

Kylee Danielle Neibel

Daughter of Julia Towery & Neil Neibel Jr.

Sneak Peak of My Life Pt.3

           Christina sat down and told me that I had to tell my daddy, no matter how scared I was, and that I was his only baby girl out of 5 other boys and that even if he did get upset, he would still always love me and support me. We sat and talked for a few minutes, me putting it off as long as possible. We went on and on talking about how crazy it was that we were both pregnant at the same time & so was Jessica. Finally I gained the courage and Christina took me right down the road, to my dads front door. I just remember my palms sweating as we walked up the cement walkway. As we approached the red front door, I grabbed Christina's hand hard and attempted to flee, but I gained the courage and opened the screen door and twisted the gold door knob. I opened it up and there my dad sat. Just the same as always in his recliner, smoking a cigarette. I walked over and sat on the arm of the love seat directly in front of him when I told him that I had to tell him something. "What is it", he replied, "Are you in some kind of trouble?". I just knew he thought it was another speeding ticket or driving without a licence. As I mentioned before, I was a wild child and my daddy bought me that car knowing that I didn't have a licence. I only had a permit. (Actually he took me to do my driving test a SEVEN times all together). I replied, "No dad, I've been driving fine, I just have to go take the test to get my licence". He said, "Well, what is it?", sounding and looking concerned. "I'm Pregnant", I told him, looking down at my feet. He went into shock. He said, "PREGNANT!", "What in the hell Juli, what are you gonna do with a baby, you can't even take care of yourself!". I felt sweat start to poor down my face, my arms, my chest, my back. I just jumped up and ran out as fast as I could. Christina, who was on the phone, quickly hung up with whoever she was talking to, to grab me and hug me as tight as she could. I told her what he said and she quickly went inside and I just sat in my dads driveway. A few minutes later, my dad walked out, looking worried, but still walked to me and hugged me and told me that he wasn't mad and that everything was going to be okay. We just hugged and I just cried because I felt that I had disappointed both my parents. Christina got back in the car and she took me back to get my Honda, & i asked her what did she say to my dad to make him tell me it was okay..? She told me that she went in and said, "She is pregnant Kenny, you need to go outside and give her a big hug and tell her everything will be okay". She said that he said, "Well, everything ain't gonna be okay". She continued to tell him, "She doesn't need to hear that, she is going through a lot right now and she needs her daddy, Kenny, she's been with the same boy for 2 or 3 years, it's not like she's hoeing around". She said he just agreed and got up to come get me.  Meanwhile, I was on the phone with Anita, my step-mother. My dad and her were divorced already but she had been there for me since I was 10 months old. She never gave up on me and always gave me encouraging words. She was my 2nd mother. The next day I went back to my moms and she was okay, to my surprise. She told me that she wasn't mad at me and that we would all get through this and we would have a beautiful baby. Neil was so supportive (for the time being), but as we get further along in the story, you might change your opinion about him. My mom set up all my appointments for the Health Department and for the OBGYN. Before I knew it, the months were flying by and my stomach was growing larger everyday. Neil and I started fighting more and more. I was an emotional wreck and he did not like the idea of growing up. His mom always had a drinking problem and didn't have any nice things to say about me while she was drinking but when she was sober, we were best friends. When I hit 5 months, Neil called and seemed intoxicated on something, asking me to come over. So, I get in the car with Jessica and we go to his house. I get there and he is out of his mind, messed up on something. We wound up leaving and a few minutes after Jessica and I got back to Christina's, my phone started blowing up with messages and phone calls from Neil saying that I had stole something of his and was calling me and Jessica horrible names and saying hurtful mean things, so I just told him that I would come get all of my things and leave him. So, Jessica and myself were off again. I got there and he met me at the door screaming and yelling at me. I quickly walked past him, into the house and gathered all my things as quickly as I could. Taking things to my trunk. The entire time Neil just cussed me out the entire time. As I walked out the front door with the last bit of my stuff, including a baby monitor. He was so close to the back of my neck, screaming at me as I walked out the front door. He slung the screen door back open behind me and kept on and on. Finally I had, had enough. I just got hot all over and everything went black. I shoved him as hard as I could back into the doorway and slammed the screen door on him and he came back up and all I remember was fear. "What have I got myself and my baby into?" When he finally got up Jessica was behind me, and thank God for that, because after that, he shoved me as hard as he could and I went falling back, headed for the porch steps. I just knew I was going to fall and that it was going to hurt my baby. Luckily, Jessica caught me and I got my balance. She then, lifted my baby monitor into the air to hit him with it. I grabbed her arm, mid-swing, and told her not to break my baby's stuff on him. I ran to the car and he ran after me. I got in and started the car as fast as i could, but I wasn't fast enough to get the door locked. Neil ran to the door apologizing and saying that he was wrong. I just told him that I had to get away from him, I had serious thinking to do, for my child's and myself, and then with him standing at my open car door I sped off. The rest of the night I stayed with Christina, sulking. Then she told me, don't be mad at him because he was messed up, that wasn't him. He'll be sober and sorry tomorrow. I couldn't believe that he risked hurting our baby. Neither could Jessica and she was letting everyone know it. He called me all that night. I had at least 20 texts and 15 voice mails on my phone, but I ignored him all that night. The next day was our Appointment at the OBGYN and I called him at his friend Austins house and they told me that he was gone. So I went alone. When they put that gel on my stomach, I jumped from the coldness. Then there were the results that I had been waiting on for 5 whole months and it was finally on a screen, moving around everywhere in my stomach. Reality hit, I had a human being that we created growing inside me. Then the nurse found what I was waiting for. "Ma'am, your having a girl". A girl? I could not believe my eyes or ears. We had thought it would be a boy, "Neil Stephen Neibel 3"... But I got my baby and I could not wait to find the perfect name for a perfect little angel. Afterwords, I called Neil and told him and he said that he had been up and ready to go but I never came and got him. When I told him the news, I could hear him telling his mom, step-dad and brother, Brian, "We're having a girl! It's a GIRL", with such excitement in his voice. He insisted that we get together and try to talk through all of our differences and even his mom, bribed me to come. At the, time, I thought Neil and I would last forever. But like i said, I was a child, and I had no idea of what was lying ahead in this journey. I just knew that I wanted the perfect family that I never had..